October 14, 2018

How can you get to know the people you should meet, better and faster

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I just wanted to share a quick technique i’ve experimented with successfully and added to my tool box, which is helping me to connect with people around me much faster and better.


People networking hear so many project pitches, few will match perfectly or really interest them. How can you make yours stand out?

The answer is don’t. Drop the pitch.

Getting to know the person behind the project is far more valuable, and what they want to know is what drives you, so i’ve been asking ‘what change are you trying to make in this world?’.

Straight away cutting down to the core of what motivates you both. If your mission overlaps you’ve met someone who wants to work with you to achieve that change and you will both want to find a way to support each other, or collaborate. If not you can far easier direct each other to someone they should speak to.

This technique came out of a conversation at the Angel Island Un-conference and transformed networking for me.

Give it a try, it has been producing far quicker and more valuable connections for me.

Social Life

The key to effective networking is actually wanting to know the people you meet as a human-being, so socialising and networking cant (shouldn’t) really be separated.

Here’s something fun i’ve used in our ‘Pick Me Up Poetry’ activities on the streets in the past, and decided to try it in my social life:

When you meet two friends, try asking each of them why they are close friends. What qualities is it about the other person that they respect and enjoy. This gives a beautiful snapshot of some of their best qualities through the eyes of someone who knows them well. Qualities that you would otherwise likely take a long time to pick up on your own. This also instantly make me like them more as i’ve shifted my perspective to be more aware of their positive qualities when they are visible.

Just a little suggestion. Give it a try if you like and let me know how it went for you in our newly sync’d forum.

Happy wishes,

Also published on Medium.

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